Courage
Take the worthwhile step you have been avoiding. Courage can mean speaking up, asking for help or setting a boundary.
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The 6EIGHT field guide
Live your values. One action at a time.
We recognise our flaws. We take accountability. We step toward action. This is a practical workshop for showing up better for ourselves and the people around us.
Start the workshop20 minutes. One honest commitment.
01 / Get honest
Four values. Everyday choices.
Use these as a compass. You do not have to change every part of your life at once.
Ownership
Own your choices and their impact. Name your part, make a repair and follow through on what you can control.
Daily effort
Choose an action you can repeat. Make room for recovery, and return to the work when a day goes sideways.
Community
Notice the people around you. Listen, share the load and help others rise without needing the credit.
02 / Choose where to begin
Where will you show up?
Open a part of your life. Read the examples, answer the reflection honestly, then choose one action for this week.
01YourselfKeep a promise to yourself.
Courage
Name one habit or situation you have been avoiding. Ask for support if taking the first step alone feels too hard.
Ownership
Notice the gap between your intentions and your choices. Own what is yours without turning a mistake into your whole identity.
Daily effort
Make a realistic promise: a short walk, a regular bedtime, a meal break or ten minutes on a task that matters.
Community
Let people care for you, too. Reach out to someone you trust and be honest about how you are going.
Ask yourself
Where am I leaving something important on the table, and what is actually within my control today?
In a real moment
You planned a long workout, but you have had a demanding day and very little rest.
A step toward action
Check what you need. Choose a manageable walk or recovery, and set a realistic next session. Effort includes looking after yourself.
Try this today
Choose one ten-minute action that serves the person you want to become.
02Your partnerBe on the same side.
Courage
Start the conversation you have been avoiding at a time you both agree on. Say what you feel and need without blame.
Ownership
Acknowledge your part clearly: “I interrupted you. That was unfair. I want to listen properly.” Follow the apology with a change.
Daily effort
Create a small moment of undistracted attention. Ask how your partner is doing and listen before offering an answer.
Community
Share the practical and emotional load. Notice a recurring responsibility, agree who owns it and carry it through.
Ask yourself
Would my partner recognise care in what I actually did this week?
In a real moment
You arrive home stressed and speak sharply when your partner asks for help.
A step toward action
Own the tone, ask for a short pause and agree when you will return to the conversation. Then return and hear what they need.
Try this today
Ask, “What has felt heavy this week, and what would useful support look like?”
03Your childrenLet them see the values in you.
Courage
Be willing to say “I got that wrong.” Listen to a difficult feeling without rushing to dismiss it or make it disappear.
Ownership
Model the behaviour you ask of them. If you lose patience, apologise without making the child responsible for your reaction.
Daily effort
Offer a small, reliable pocket of attention. Put the phone down and let them choose an age-appropriate activity.
Community
Help them notice and include others. Praise kindness, honest effort and asking for help, as well as achievement.
Ask yourself
What are my children learning from how I respond when things do not go my way?
In a real moment
Your child has a disappointing game and is upset about a mistake.
A step toward action
Listen first. Ask what they enjoyed, what felt hard and whether they want help practising. Let your support be bigger than the result.
Try this today
Give each child a few minutes of your full attention and ask one question about their day.
04Your parents & familyCare with respect and boundaries.
Courage
Make a meaningful call or have an honest conversation where contact is welcome and safe. Speak kindly about your limits.
Ownership
Take responsibility for your communication and commitments. You cannot control how another adult chooses to respond.
Daily effort
Choose a realistic rhythm for keeping in touch. Follow through on one practical offer rather than making a promise you cannot sustain.
Community
Ask what help is wanted. Respect their independence, and share responsibilities with other family members where possible.
Ask yourself
What would thoughtful, sustainable care look like in my family right now?
In a real moment
A parent needs help, but you are already stretched and cannot do everything.
A step toward action
Ask what matters most. Offer one task you can reliably do and discuss other support together. Be clear about your capacity.
Try this today
Make one welcome check-in, or set one respectful boundary you need to maintain.
05Your friendsBe someone people can count on.
Courage
Check in when a friend seems different. Ask a sincere question and allow an honest answer.
Ownership
Keep confidences, own a let-down and make a concrete repair. Avoid promising availability you cannot give.
Daily effort
Send the message, make the call or keep the plan. Small, consistent contact helps care show up in ordinary weeks.
Community
Celebrate their progress. Include the friend on the edges and accept that people need different kinds of support.
Ask yourself
Who have I been meaning to check on, and what is stopping me?
In a real moment
A friend keeps declining invitations and you are tempted to stop asking.
A step toward action
Check in privately without pressure. Offer a simple option and let them know a reply or explanation is not owed.
Try this today
Send one personal message that asks how someone is, without needing anything from them.
06Your communityContribute where you are.
Courage
Turn up to a local activity or offer help with something that needs doing. Start as a learner if it is unfamiliar.
Ownership
Respect shared spaces and the commitments you make. Leave things better where you can.
Daily effort
Choose a contribution you can sustain: a volunteer shift, a regular check-in or a little time helping a local group.
Community
Make room for different abilities, backgrounds and starting points. Ask what would help someone feel included.
Ask yourself
Where could my time, skills or attention make a useful difference close to home?
In a real moment
Someone arrives at a park run for the first time and is standing alone.
A step toward action
Introduce yourself, explain what to expect and ask whether they would like company. Let them choose their own pace.
Try this today
Welcome one newcomer or make one specific offer to a local group.
07People you do not knowRespect does not need an introduction.
Courage
Offer help when it is safe and appropriate. Ask first, and get suitable assistance if a situation is beyond you.
Ownership
Notice your assumptions. Be responsible for your tone and actions, including when you are frustrated or in a hurry.
Daily effort
Practise ordinary courtesy: make space, thank people, listen and leave shared places tidy.
Community
Treat people with dignity without needing a return. Respect a no, and avoid turning someone else’s difficulty into content.
Ask yourself
How do I treat people who cannot offer me anything in return?
In a real moment
A service worker is dealing with a delay and a long queue.
A step toward action
Speak respectfully, explain what you need and give them room to help. Frustration is real; you still choose how you respond.
Try this today
Offer one small act of consideration and let it be enough on its own.
08At workDo the work. Look after the people.
Courage
Raise a concern early, ask the question you need to ask and speak up through the appropriate channels when something is unsafe.
Ownership
Own an error with the facts, the impact and a proposed next step. Ask for help before a manageable problem becomes a bigger one.
Daily effort
Protect time for the task that matters. Make realistic commitments and communicate when priorities or capacity change.
Community
Give credit, share useful knowledge and support colleagues without taking over their responsibilities or carrying an unsustainable load.
Ask yourself
Where would clearer communication or better follow-through help my team this week?
In a real moment
You realise a deadline may slip, and you are tempted to stay quiet until you can fix everything.
A step toward action
Tell the relevant person early. Explain what is known, offer options and agree the next step and update time.
Try this today
Close one communication loop: give a useful update, clarify an owner or acknowledge someone’s contribution.
03 / Turn intention into action
Make one promise you can keep.
Choose something small enough to do on a difficult day and specific enough to know when you have done it.
This exercise does not submit your answers to 6EIGHT or save them between visits. Copy or print your plan before leaving.
A seven-day commitment
My next step.
- My focus
- My value
- I will
- When and where
- My support
- My smaller step
At the end of seven days: What did I do? What did I notice? What will I repeat or change?
A moment to check in. Each day.
Tick a day when you have paused to review your commitment. This is a reminder, not a score of your worth.
0 of 7 daily check-ins
Missed a day? We go again.
Tell the truth about what happened. Repair anything that needs repairing. Make the next step smaller if needed, and begin again. Accountability and kindness can exist together.
At the end of the week, ask: What did I do? How did it affect me or someone else? What will I repeat or change?
Try it together
Make space for your people.
Use the guide with a partner, family, team or crew. Allow about 25 minutes. Everyone chooses what to share; passing is always welcome.
- 01 /
5 minutes / Reflect privately
Choose an area and notice one behaviour you want to change. Keep names and private details to yourself.
- 02 /
10 minutes / Listen in turns
Each person shares one intention. Others listen without interrupting or trying to fix them. Ask: “What support would be useful?”
- 03 /
5 minutes / Choose one action
Make a specific, manageable commitment. Decide when you will do it and what a smaller version could look like.
- 04 /
5 minutes / Agree to check in
Choose a time next week to ask how it went. Encourage honesty, notice effort and agree on the next step together.
Use this to take responsibility for your own actions. Let other people choose their commitments and respect their boundaries.
Wear it as a reminder. Live it through your actions.
A quiet act of care counts. A difficult conversation counts. Starting again counts. Share a moment with the crew if it might encourage someone else.
Share a crew moment